I'm feeling like a high school girl again, competing for attention from the boy I love. Trying every possible thing to make him like me and want to be with me. I try to be fun, exciting, nurturing, but nothing seems to work. Oliver still chooses his dad over me :(
To be honest I never thought I'd be jealous of Oliver wanting Sean over me. At first I thought it was adorable that he's a daddy's boy, but now it's just getting ridiculous. Honestly, does he not remember the fact that I carried him in my belly for 9 months!!! Does he not remember all the night time feedings, the diaper changes, the bathes, the constant holding and tending to his every need? Where's the appreciation?
Lily was always a mommy's girl and I loved it to some extent. Sometimes it would bother me because she wouldn't let Sean do anything, like carry her, buckle her seat belt, push the stroller, brush her teeth, wipe her bum. I had to do it all. Now I'm thinking that it's better than the alternative. Oliver shakes his head at me and pushes me away when Sean's holding him, and he cries at me if I come too close or talk to him when Sean's around, makes me sad. But ya know what? I'm trying to be a good sport about it, I guess Sean deserves his turn to be the favorite:) Gotta overcome my jealousy... on second thought, scratch that idea. I have a new plan. I'm just going to try harder to be the fun one :)
Any tips on how to win him over? I've gotta come up with some new tactics. I was thinking I could wake up at 6am every morning to plan out my day full of activities ALL for Olly. First we'll start out by having cookies and milk for breakfast, fresh baked, followed by a 2 hour ride on the 4 wheeler, then we'll go to the pet store and buy a puppy. We'll pop over to the candy shop, then swimming, then the zoo, and of course stop for ice cream on the way home. Who cares about the dishes, laundry and list of things that need to be done, making dinner for Sean and Lily, or spending time with them. It's all about Oliver now, I've got to focus on the goal here, can't have any distractions.
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It seems like it's always that way! Kids always want their dad.
I totally understand. My son went through a phase like that and now he's a momma's boy! :)
That video was beyond cute!!! I totally understand the jealousy thing. I can't imagine how I would feel if my baby preferred my husband to hold/comfort him (even though it his father).
I am pretty much dog meat when my husband is around! It does break your heart a little bit! Hang in there though, you know the tide will change one day!
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My situation is a bit different being divorced but Tyler calls his dad to tell him everything and then when I drop him off it is like I am a ghost ...he is a huge daddy's boy and I get jealous at times because I am the primary one who does everything for him....kids are so funny at times
The video is cute! All off my three kids are mommy´s kids. It´s nice that they love me so much, but the negative thing is that I have to do everything. I think Oliver will change his mind when he gets a little older and then he will be Mommy´s boy!!!
That is too funny. I used to have to compete with my mom for my kids attention. It was like she had a spell on them. Now my son at 5 is all about Dad. I know how you feel. Good luck.
Are you kidding? Play hard to get! The more you pursue, the more they run.
Haha! Totally cute video. I agree with mhm, play hard to get ;)
That was way too cute! I love his little giggle!
Totally understand, try having 4 that just want their dad. As soon as he is off from work and they hear his voice it's "DAD", and off in his arms they go. Never have they done that to me....that i remember. : )
What a precious video!
This put a big smile on my face.
What a beautiful family you have.
Have a wonderful week!
xoxo
Edyta
Or you could just adopt me and I'll go to the zoo with you and be your favorite kid. :)
Ray is a daddy's girl. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, she cries for dad not mom!
I hear ya. Lots of that happening over here, too!
My first born has been a mama's boy from the get-go. But that is in large part due to the fact I did everything for him. Hubs and I weren't really quite sure what we were "doing" yet, as a couple, when he came along, and so I took it upon myself to show Hubs exactly how easy it could be to adapt to having a child join our lives.
Hubs got the swing of it, got laid off, and along came baby #2. Oh yes, baby 2. He stayed at home with daddy while he was laid off and finishing school and my baby #2, who is now 2, is a HUGE daddy's boy. HUGE. Clingy daddy's boy. It really, really hurt my feelings. I wasn't used to it.
I know some of your post is tongue in cheek, but the feelings of rejection can hurt. LOL I just realized that our time will come, later. It actually is happening a bit now, especially since baby 3 has made her appearance. But I honestly think that my daddy's boy, baby 2, and I will have a very special relationship when he's just a bit older. I can already sense it a bit. :) I just wait, patiently, while he clings to daddy's leg, wants daddy when he's in tears, etc. My turn will come. So will yours.
Cookies can't hurt, though. At least not you.
Oh, too funny Crystal. I think it happens with every child. When my son was born, my husband thought that naturally he would be a daddy's boy. But my son was a momma's boy for a long time. And now he's a daddy's boy through and through. Anywhere my husband is, he has a little shadow following him.
I guess they just go through different phases.
I'm totally paying attention to this. I don't want to be jealous when I have kids and they like daddy better :)
funny video
Cute video! I think what someone else said might work, play hard to get...just get really comfortable reading a book or enjoying a treat and he'll want a piece of that action! lol
I am going through the same thing right now :), my husband just got back from a year's deployment and my son only want's Daddy 24/7- it hurts a little since I was a single parent doing everything for him for a year- I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND! I have just decided when my Hubby is home my son will want him, but when he goes to work it is MY time to win him over, and it has definitely encouraged me to play alot more (instead of just cuddle)- be more goofy- all the things my Hubby does soo well;0 Good Luck!
You CANNOT let this happen ;-) Step up your "fun quotient" ASAP. My husband was always more of the fun one but I think times are achangin' at my place :D
Thats soo cute!! Dont worry...he will come around...boys always do...and then he will be "Mommy's Boy" forever!! I still do my 20yo sons laundry and balance his check book! :)
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